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Can masturbating help me have better sex?

Expert:   Isabel Blumberg, MD, Board Certified Obstetrician/Gynecologist »

Does masturbation help you to have better and hotter sex? Is masturbation good for you, or is there such a thing as too much masturbation? Watch this to learn!

Transcript: When it comes to sexual pleasure, masturbation can both help and hurt your sexual satisfaction. For those of you who don’t know what masturbation IS, masturbation is the term for genital self-stimulation . The downside of masturbation? Reaching orgasm through masturbation can make orgasm difficult to achieve with a partner. Men can develop what is called “delayed ejaculation”, where it’s difficult -- or even impossible -- to orgasm during partner sex because he’s masturbated himself to the point where orgasm occurs only through the EXACT pressure, friction and rhythm from his own hand, something a partner’s hand, mouth, vagina or anus simply cannot replicate. PLUS, the instant gratification from masturbating can be so appealing that one loses interest in sex with a partner. Women run the risk of developing their own version of “delayed ejaculation” finding themselves in a similar predicament where orgasm is possible only through genital self-stimulation, making partner-sex, well, “anti-climatic”…. The upside of masturbation? Sex science shows that masturbation can help men control orgasm and avoid premature ejaculation, – and can help both men and women feel more confident about their sexuality by allowing you to discover EXACTLY which pleasure points your partner may find advantageous. The moral of the masturbation story? Use it, don’t abuse it. More »

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