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Having sex for the first time is scary. Find out how to make losing your virginity the best moment it can be -- for both you and your partner.
Transcript: Ian: So this is a question I get a lot from men and from women, 'It is my first time, how do I impress...
Ian: So this is a question I get a lot from men and from women, 'It is my first time, how do I impress my partner?' Logan: And it is a huge fear, a huge fear and insecurity. What if my partner doesn't like what I'm doing? The first thing to remember is to manage your expectations. For example, most women don't have orgasms from intercourse alone. So if your expecting that and that doesn't happen then you might feel badly about yourself. And the fact is, know in advance it probably won't happen from sex alone. Ian: On that same note, studies show that for women to actually enjoy sex and experience orgasm, that parts of the female brain that are associated with stress and anxiety need to deactivate. The first time really can sometimes be a stressful experience. Really focusing on the relaxation bit whether that means dimming the lights or spending a lot of time on kissing and foreplay. Because arousal is it's own neuro-chemical cocktail. The more you let that cocktail do its work, the more inhibited you become, the more relaxed, the more aroused you become. Logan: And you want to be well lubricated especially the first time. You want your partner to be well lubricated. The only way to do that really is to spend some time on foreplay. That will make sex much more enjoyable for both of you.Ian: Exactly. Men, you really need to remember the clitoris is the powerhouse of the female orgasm. There are certain sex positions like 'woman on top' where a woman can really control the persistent pressure against the clitoris. I think 'woman on top' is the position that a woman is most likely to have an orgasm in. Logan: Well, yes. I think it is important to just remember any position where you have access to a woman's clitoris--or at least you can spend some time during intercourse stimulating a woman's clitoris--is going to be a good position. Ian: And like we talked in our other video, outercourse and foreplay and just doing everything you can. So check out those other videos. For tips on how to be a great lover and how to be a great partner and how to communicate, you can go to goodinbed.com or check out other videos in this video series.More »
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Pleasuring her orally isn't as easy as it sounds. In this video, find out what usually goes wrong and how to make it pleasurable.
Transcript: Ian: A question that I do hear from a lot a of people, especially women, I have to say is, 'How do I...
Ian: A question that I do hear from a lot a of people, especially women, I have to say is, 'How do I give my partner feedback when it comes to oral sex?' Logan: Clearly screaming at them that they're doing it wrong is not really an option. Ian: No, guys get very very defensive. We get like Robert De Niro in Taxi Driver, 'Are you talking to me?' The problem is guys get so much of their information these days from porn. So a lot of women complain about guys being too rough, too hard. One woman actually said to me, 'He's like a cobra attacking a mongoose when he goes at me.' So don't make like a cobra man out there. As a woman, how would you tell a guy? Logan: I think it is really important that you always couch your criticism in positive terms. 'I love it when you do this...' And steer them in a right direction this way. Or show them with your hand. You're talking about sex, you're using language for body parts, so that in it of itself is a turn on. As long as you're not using the words 'don't' or that 'you're doing something wrong.' Ian: I think that is so true. Guys, I think we absolutely crave constructive feedback. I also sometimes tell women if you're really shy about giving feedback, tell your guys that you had this really super sexy dream about him last night. That he was going down on you and kissing you and just being so gentle. Do what you can to make talking about sex sexy. Logan: Or you could always use third party information. I saw something in a movie that I really want to try or I read something in a book. That way it takes some of the pressure off you. It is not about one person's prowess, but you're both getting what you want in the end Ian: And in the end knowing your partner, knowing your partner's body. I mean people change throughout the course of the arousal. So what might feel good or what might feel not so good at the beginning might feel good a little later on. So really communicate and be aware of your partner. Logan: Mix it up. Ian: And for more videos, check out more videos in this series.More »
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While pleasuring him orally, it's important to be enthused about pleasing your partner. Get some helpful tips and information about oral pleasure in this video.
Transcript: Logan: A question that a lot of women have is, how do I know if I'm giving a good blow job? How do I...
Logan: A question that a lot of women have is, how do I know if I'm giving a good blow job? How do I know if I'm doing the right thing? And if I'm not, what am I supposed to do? Ian: I think one of the things' I think women are under a lot of pressure of course, from porn you see women doing things during oral sex that most women are not so comfortable with' Logan: Definitely not comfortable with' Ian: The main thing I want to say as a guy, is that a woman should really be comfortable with it and be into it. The hottest thing to a guy is a woman who is enjoying what she is doing and isn't nervous about it or worried about it. That said, I think a lot of women, just like guys don't get to see how a woman would self pleasure herself, a lot of women don't get to see a guy do it. For a lot of women who are wondering about oral sex tips, think about a combination of friction and pressure. That's what it really comes down to, friction at the head of the penis and pressure at the base of the penis. Oral sex is not just about the mouth. It is about your mind, your mouth, and your hands. And it is really about getting completely involved and enjoying what you're doing. Logan: And I think is also about making sure we're getting constant feedback from our partners. Following their body language, listening to cues, listening to breathe patterns. We can tell if someone is into it or if they're just kind of lying there and not all that interested too. Ian: Yeah, men will also loose their erections during oral sex. Logan: That would be a good sign. Ian: That would be sign. Logan: For more tips like these, check out other videos in this series.More »
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Wondering what happens during your first time? These cherry popping myths will share the truth about losing your virginity. Don't believe everything you hear!
Transcript: Logan: A question that I get a lot is, 'What's the first time going to be like?' There are so many myths...
Logan: A question that I get a lot is, 'What's the first time going to be like?' There are so many myths about what it means to lose your virginity. Probably one of the biggest myths is that the hymen has to break in order to tell if someone is a virgin. Here's the thing, the hymen is a thin tissue that partially covers the opening to the vagina. And most women, most girls will tear their hymen long before they've ever had intercourse for the first time. So the answer to that is no, the hymen doesn't have to break or pop. Some women experience bleeding the first time they have sex, the first few times, some do not. Ian: You know what else I think is a big myth? That it is going to be the most fabulous night of your life, a night to remember. Logan: Oh, bad build up. Ian: You know statistics show, a lot of studies show that a lot of people regret their first experience or it didn't go well or it was disappointing. I know for a lot of men, especially a lot of young guys, they end up prematurely ejaculating. Which is a problem that I'll talk about in a later video but is really quite common. And also most women don't orgasm from/during their first experience either. Logan: We have big expectations for the first time and ideally the first time is wonderful, but your right it doesn't mean you're going to have an orgasm. Also, some people, both men and women, think you can't get pregnant the first time you have sex. Well, the truth is you can get pregnant. You can also get a sexually transmitted infection the first time you have sex. If it's unprotected, there's a risk. Ian: I played Moody Blues the first time. Big myth: Moody Blues does not lead to female orgasm. Pick your music well. But it is important to relax and enjoy. Logan: Yes, and destress and communicate. Talk about what you want your first time and hopefully it will be somewhat pleasurable. Ian: And do it with somebody that you care about. You're going to remember it. Logan: Intimacy is a good thing. For more information on good in bed tips, check out goodinbed.com or other videos in this series.More »
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Does size matter? The answer varies with what men and women want. Check out this video to have more insight on this topic.
Transcript: Logan: So I know you're probably wondering, does size matter? It is a question that is probably as old...
Logan: So I know you're probably wondering, does size matter? It is a question that is probably as old as time and the answer isn't simple. Ian: As a guy, we really think that size matters. I personally believe that size shouldn't matter. Most guys first of all fall into an average of 4 to 6 inches, really around 5 inches when erect. And that's the average for the vast majority of men. There are guys that can be too small. There's a condition where I think it might up to 10% of men have micropenises Again, that's not the average. Of course, the opposite problem being too big can also be a problem. When you think about it, 90 perfect of the nerve fibers that contribute to the female orgasm are located on the surface of the vulva and respond to stimulation. Logan: Except that being said, there of plenty of women who will tell you, 'Yes, size is an issue.' It might just be a psychological thing that perhaps having a larger penis makes someone a better lover, which isn't necessarily the case. But also women find girth important. Thickness of the penis becomes important. And part of that is the thicker a man's penis is the more likely it is to stimulate nerve ending in the vaginal walls, especially in the front because the further back you get the less nerve endings. Ian: I think that you do make an impression via size often one way or the other. I think again guys often worry too much about it. Usually, the women who complain about a guy's size are very often the women who also aren't having orgasms. I would say all the guys out there who are worried about the size of your penis focus more instead on your ability to understand your partner, to respond to your partner. Logan: And remember that size comes with challenges too. Being too large for your partner can come with certain kind of bruising or vaginal tearing which would be very uncomfortable. I think it is important to be comfortable with who you are. Ian: And if a guy is too big, if he's aware of that, he might say introduce some personal lubricant into it. Or with a woman certainly there are positions. Again, it really does come down to communication. So size in the end, it matters? It doesn't matter? It matters to you? Logan: It's still up for grabs. For more sexual health tips like these check out goodinbed.com or more videos in this series.More »
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Women sometimes fake orgasms, but men do too. Find out the reasons a man would fake an orgasm by watching this video.
Transcript: Ian: This is a question that is obviously on every man's mind is how to know when a woman is faking it,...
Ian: This is a question that is obviously on every man's mind is how to know when a woman is faking it, or why does a women fake it, and how to deal with faking. Logan: You know why we're faking it? We're concerned about your ego. We don't want you to feel badly about your sexual prowess. And we do ourselves a huge disservice when we fake it because than neither of us actually get the satisfaction that we want. Ian: I think in some cases, a lot of women living in a world of media, growing up in a world of media that kind of focuses on sex tips to pleasure men, a lot of women sort of don't always know how to receive pleasure as well as give pleasure. Logan: And forget about the importance of getting pleasure themselves. Ian: I should also just say to the guys out there that the more you get your sex tips from porn, actually the less likely that a woman is to have an orgasm. Studies have shown that for a woman to really enjoy arousal and experience an orgasm she really has to be able to relax and disconnect. And that means just feeling completely secure in herself and her own body. If you're worried whether or not you have to make like a pornstar' you might fake like a pornstar but your not really going to have an orgasm Logan: And it also means for men checking in with their partner to really say, 'I want you to have pleasure. Please show me, tell me what I can do.' Ian: And it's also like a little bit for the all women out there too' for us guys, if a tree falls and there's nobody there to hear it does it really fall? You have to speak up and tell us. Like a lot of women, especially in my practice will say, 'I've been faking it for years.' And they're so angry. Logan: Oh that does a huge disservice to everyone. Ian: 'and the guy is like, 'I don't understand I thought I was doing great?' Logan: I know, we do have to speak up and we have to talk and we have to be honest or else neither of us is going to get the pleasure we want and deserve. Ian: So viva la vulva. And for more videos in this series check out goodinbed.com or check out more videos and more tips in this series.More »
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Taking forever to orgasm? There are plenty of factors involved in delayed orgasms. Watch this video to learn more about the topic and get tips for a quick orgasm.
Transcript: Logan: You know, Ian, in this world of instant gratification, we want everything and we want it fast....
Logan: You know, Ian, in this world of instant gratification, we want everything and we want it fast. And when it comes to sex and pleasure if just doesn't work that way. So there are plenty of women who are wondering why it takes them so long to reach orgasm? Ian: One of the first things I would say again, as we've said in some other videos, for a woman to enjoy arousal and experience orgasm it does require parts of the brain to deactivate, which means being able to really relax and let go. I think a big part of is also a lack of persistent clitoral stimulation. Often, very often, I think just when a woman is really getting excited and getting really aroused and doesn't want a guy to stop what he's doing, he often will change things up. Logan: At very inopportune moments. And the other thing about women is that we don't always feel comfortable talking about our bodies and we are not as familiar as men are with masturbation. So sometimes it takes us a while because we don't even know what turns us on. And if we don't, I don't know how we expect someone else to get it right. Ian: And women are slower to arouse than men. That might just be an evolutionary function of how we're sort of wired and how our bodies are kind of mechanized. Blood flows very quick into the male genitals and guys get erect very quickly. Most guys will ejaculate within 2 minutes or so of intercourse. Women just require a lot more persistent clitoral stimulation. Logan: Right, so foreplay is so important. Not being stressed about the time it takes to have an orgasm is important. And really just disconnecting and kind of enjoying the journey and not just waiting for the end. Because if we just wait for the orgasm then it can psyche us out all together. Ian: Perfectly said. Logan: For more sexual health tips like these, check out goodinbed.com or other videos on this site.More »
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We don't hear much about male multiple orgasms. Find out if they're possible and how they work in this video.
Transcript: Logan: We hear often about women and multiple orgasms, but we don't hear that much about men. Probably...
Logan: We hear often about women and multiple orgasms, but we don't hear that much about men. Probably because of that refractory period we all hear about. So is it possible, Ian, for men to have multiple orgasms? Ian: It is possible. Well, you hear a lot about male multiple orgasms. One thing I want to say is that women have a genuine physiological capacity to have multiple orgasms. Because after a women has an orgasm, there is more blood that lingers in the genitals and there's still residual sexual tension. As you said earlier, men tend to go very quickly into the refractory period, which is the pre-aroused state. Logan: Which is the roll over phase. Ian: The roll over and start snoring phase or I don't know, go to Hulu and watch something. What I want to say is men can experience multiple orgasms but not quiet in the same way. See men experience...as a guy gets aroused right before he ejaculates, he experiences a point of ejaculatory inevitability. And that means that with or without further stimulation, a guy's going to ejaculate. Logan: It's going to happen Ian: But as a guy and as a woman and as his partner, if you become attuned to those moments right before the moment of ejaculatory inevitability, there are actually a few pleasurable sort of orgasmic contractions. Guys might emit a little bit of seminal fluid also called pre-cum, and that feels good. But you really have to sort of be able to navigate. It's kind of like being able to go right up to the brink and pull back a little bit and go back'. Logan: So you have to really need to know your body and your partner's body. Which takes some time to learn. Ian: And that is different than the female body. Women have a more genuine, more physiological innately capacity for multiple orgasms. But again men can have, it is really about extending pleasure and being aware and in tune with your partners body. Logan: So you hear that; men can have multiple orgasms. For more tips like these, check out good in bed.com or other videos on this site.More »
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Can’t ejaculate during sex? Delayed ejaculation is a growing problem that can occur for a couple of reasons. Watch this video for more information.
Transcript: Logan: There's some women who have a lot of questions about why it seems like their male partners can't...
Logan: There's some women who have a lot of questions about why it seems like their male partners can't ejaculate or don't ejaculate except for if they're engaged in oral sex or if they're masturbating. Ian: Well, delayed ejaculation really is a growing problem amongst men. And there are actually two reasons for delayed ejaculation. One is millions of men are on antidepressants and drugs and SSRIs that have the sexual side effect of delaying, if not completely inhibiting ejaculation. So that's one problem, if a guy's on a medication like that. Logan: And they're not always talking to their doctors about it. Ian: No, so he's likely to have that problem. The other thing that is interesting is really the rise of Internet pornography. The proliferation and the easy access to internet porn has lead to a phenomenon where a lot of guys are masturbating a lot more than they would normally or over masturbating. What that actually leads to is a clinical condition that's called idiosyncratic masturbatory style. It's a bit of a mouthful, idiosyncratic masturbatory style. But basically what it means is that a guys has gotten himself accustomed to a kind of pressure and friction and rhythm that isn't really approximated with sex with a real person Logan: So vaginal intercourse can't mimic that sensation. Ian: Exactly. Luckily, it's pretty easy to reverse. And I hear this from a lot of guys too, 'Hey, what's the deal why am I having so many problems ejaculating during intercourse?' The first thing I would advise of course if you're on a medication, look into the sexual side effects of that medication. Then also ask yourself, are you masturbating more than usual? If you are, give yourself what I would call a porn break or a masturbation break. The other thing to do is when you're masturbating to masturbate with your non dominate hand. So if you're a righty and you normally masturbate with your right hand, masturbate with your left hand because that will reduce the pressure and friction on the penis. Logan: And mix it up so that you don't have the same sensation all the time so you can start to have pleasure from vaginal intercourse. For more sex tips like these, check out other videos in this seriesMore »
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When you get used to the same sex position, it could potentially take the spontaneity out of things. Boosting the excitement in the bedroom may just be a matter of having the right moves. Check out this video for tips on how to spice things up.
Transcript: Logan: Sometimes we get used to the same position and it becomes the only position we can orgasm in....
Logan: Sometimes we get used to the same position and it becomes the only position we can orgasm in. Is this normal? And why do some people only climax in one position over another? Ian: I think it's really normal, especially in a long-term relationship to develop what I would call a 'sex script.' There's nothing wrong, especially if you're enjoying the sex, knowing which positions really work for you. And everybody is different. Some women find that really being on top really provides the most clitoral stimulation. Some couples really just love missionary position. We love to say missionary is you know so simple or so boring, but it is a very exciting position in terms of the intimacy and the eye contact. Logan: And vanilla sex is still sex. I might be the missionary position but it's still sex. We read all these magazines that say, '5,000 new sex positions.' If we're not interested in those or if they don't work for us when we're trying to follow them, we start to feel badly that there is something wrong with us or our relationship. But if it works for you it works for you. Ian: I totally agree. I'm definitely of the mind if it's not broken you don't need to fix it. And if it works' It is also a question of finding the positions that work for you as well. Some men really find' just like as women need positions that provide clitoral stimulation. Like there's also the coital alignment technique called CAT. Where it's really about the base of his penis and pelvis really meeting a woman's clitoris. Instead of a lot of thrusting it is more about that persistent connection and kind of a grinding and a rocking. Some men find that they need a position from like let's say behind -- provides a lot more friction. It's really about finding what works for you. Logan: And not feeling badly if it's the only thing that works for you. For more sex tips like these, check out other videos in this series.More »
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Do you or your partner have to deal with premature ejaculation without knowing what to do about it? Check out this video for tips on how to prevent premature ejaculation.
Transcript: Ian: This is an issue that I'm really passionate about. It is a topic that comes up a lot in my practice....
Ian: This is an issue that I'm really passionate about. It is a topic that comes up a lot in my practice. I've actually written a new book all about it called Overcoming Premature Ejaculation. It's an issue that guys deal with and also I think a lot of women wonder about too. Logan: Lots of women wonder about it. Because they wonder how they can prolong sex. How they can encourage their partners to feel better about themselves because it becomes an insecurity and anxiety issue. And also it's a relationship issue because typically if a man is ejaculating prematurely, his female partner isn't necessarily getting all the sexual contact and foreplay that she needs. Ian: Exactly, and you know especially in the media where we're used to hearing a lot about erectile disorders and Viagra. But in fact premature ejaculation is a much bigger problem. By most estimates, 1 out of 3 men have premature ejaculation. Just to be specific and to be clear, men on the whole tend to ejaculate somewhat quickly regardless of what we see in porn. Studies have been done that show that even the average guy can last anywhere' and maintains thrusting during intercourse usually from anywhere from 2 to 5 minutes. Logan: And most women don't want hours of thrusting either. We get chaffed. It's not comfortable. Ian: So I think though that for men with premature ejaculation it is a couple of things. It's one, ejaculating usually within a minute. Many men with premature ejaculation can't even make it to the intercourse part. And forget manual stimulation or oral stimulation. It's really very very constricting and very very hard. Logan: So what does woman in this case do who is concerned about her partner and wants to help this? Ian: I think the best thing that a woman can do, to shortcut to the answer, is really encourage him to engage in other means of clitoral stimulation. Really emphasize oral sex, manual stimulation. There are medications that actually have the side effects of delaying ejaculation. This can be a big problem unless you happen to be a premature ejaculator. Then you might benefit from going to a doctor and talking about getting an off label prescription of a low dosage of one of these SSRIs. For more on this you can go to Good in Bed, like I said I wrote a whole book on this called Overcoming Premature Ejaculation, or go to more videos in this series.More »
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Is vibrator addiction a real risk of owning a sex toy? Watch this video to learn what Ian Kerner and Logan Levkoff say on this pleasurable device.
Transcript: Ian: You know, Sex and the City just did so many wonderful things for humanity as we know it. But one...
Ian: You know, Sex and the City just did so many wonderful things for humanity as we know it. But one of the truly great things the show did was to really mainstream the importance of vibrators in a woman's sexuality. But here's the thing, a lot of us guys do secretly wonder can a woman get addicted to her vibrator? Logan: Well, let me make this clear: No. No, a woman cannot get addicted to her vibrator. She can get addicted to the feel-good sensation that she gets from it, but it's not like this chemically dependant kind of addiction. Women and men are built differently and growing up we aren't really told that. We look at sex in terms of like' you know, think of all the images we see of people in movies having sex and everyone is screaming and moaning in orgasm. The fact of the matter is that most women don't experience that. And vibrators aren't sex toys, they're enhancements that are really necessary for a lot of women to have an orgasm. Instead of looking at vibrators as a like a masturbation tool, it should be something that we use and partner in sex too. Ian: Right, exactly. And for a guy a vibrator can really be like a guy's best friend. Like Batman and Robin. Han and Chewy. A guy and his vibe. Logan: And it's not going to be a replacement for your penis. I mean, we're never going to choose an inanimate object over a living, breathing person. Ian: But here's the thing. If a woman is consistently having orgasms with a vibrator and consistently not having orgasms with her partner or inconsistently having orgasms with her partner, it doesn't mean she's addicted to her vibrator. It means she requires a different kind of clitoral stimulation. Logan: Yes, and that's okay. That's not a problem with you or your prowess. It just means women are build differently. And vibrators can do amazing things for the clitoris and for the vulva and all those 8,000 nerve ending that the penis just by nature can't. That is not a bad thing. That just means we need enhancements during sex -- and that's fun. Novelty is fun. Ian: Absolutely. So guys make nice with her vibe. And if you want more tips like this, check out other videos on this site.More »
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Are you second to masturbation? While masturbation may be tons of fun for your partner, you may be feeling unfullfilled or insecure. Check out this video for more information about masturbation and its effects on your sex life.
Transcript: Logan: Masturbation is a completely normal and healthy thing, but if you find that your partner is masturbating,...
Logan: Masturbation is a completely normal and healthy thing, but if you find that your partner is masturbating, sometimes you get a little insecure and uncomfortable. 'Is it something wrong with me and am I not satisfying enough?' Ian: Like you said masturbation is normal. It is a very healthy part of life. But I think that if for some reason your partner is over-masturbating or you feel like your sex life isn't where you want it to be, than maybe it can be a problem. Logan: So if it is a replacement for sex with you than it is a problem. Ian: I think than it is a problem. I do want to say that people in healthy relationships masturbate. There have been some studies that have even shown couples with great sex lives do tend to masturbate more than single people. Because their eroticized, their testosterone levels are up, they're feeling good about their self esteem and about their sexuality. Logan: And masturbation is a really important and healthy part of our sex lives that we often forget about -- that we get to know about our own bodies better. The more we know what gives us pleasure the more that we can translate that to someone else. We have friend who has masturbated every morning in the shower since he was 15 years old. His wife knows and it is not really a big deal. It is just part of a routine and it doesn't mean that your sex life is lacking at all. Ian: And I think it is like you said, it's normal, it's healthy, it's relaxing. Sometimes it can be a problem and in another video, stay tuned in this series, we'll talk about when masturbation can be a problem. But know that it is also really healthy. Logan: And really good for a relationship, too. For more sexual health tips, check out more videos in this series.More »
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