Key To Anal Sex

I would say the key is lubrication -- lubrication and communication. Logan: Absolutely. Lubrication is essential. And talking to your partner and making sure that at every step he or she is comfortable with what you're doing. Because if they're not, than anal sex is never going to feel good and it is not something that should be part of your sexual repertoire. Ian: No, it could lead to discomfort. It could lead to damage butt. It can also be done safely and in a way that is a lot of fun. Logan: I mean you can also engage in anal sex and stimulate the clitoris at the same time. So there is certainly the potential for pleasure if you keep talking and you're safe.

Before you penetrate, focus on foreplay, making her pleasure your utmost priority. If you wait until she's fully stimulated to enter her, she probably won't know-or care-what size you are! There are a few sexual positions can help you make the most of every inch. Start with that tried and true favorite, rear-entry. Or try the "rabbit ears" position. Have her lie on her back and bring her knees to her ears. She should hold her knees there as you penetrate her.

Study after study shows that 80% of women do not orgasm from intercourse alone. The clitoris is the powerhouse of the female orgasm. Logan: Which is part of the vulva outside not inside of the vagina. Ian: Right, 90% of the nerve fibers that contribute to the female orgasm are located on the surface of the vulva. So I like to say that many men through no fault of their own are what I call "illclitorate." Many men need to get "clitorate." They need to understand that the clitoris is the powerhouse of the female orgasm and foreplay is coreplay.

Water-based lubricants, like Astroglide and Liquid Silk, are designed for use with sex toys and latex contraceptives, like condoms and diaphragms. These formulas are designed to be non-irritating to the body-good news for people with sensitive skin. The downside? They dry up faster than other forms of lube. Meanwhile, silicone-based lubricants can't be used with silicone sex-toys, but they're fine with latex. Silicone lubes, like Eros, last longer than water-based ones. Finally, oil-based lubricants, like Vaseline, are an option for some sex play, like hand jobs. But these lubes are NOT safe with latex, however, as they can break down the material!

Probably one of the biggest myths is that the hymen has to break in order to tell if someone is a virgin. Here's the thing, the hymen is a thin tissue that partially covers the opening to the vagina. And most women, most girls will tear their hymen long before they've ever had intercourse for the first time. So the answer to that is no, the hymen doesn't have to break or pop. Some women experience bleeding the first time they have sex, the first few times, some do not.

People in healthy relationships masturbate. There have been some studies that have even shown couples with great sex lives do tend to masturbate more than single people. Because they're eroticized, their testosterone levels are up, they're feeling good about their self esteem and about their sexuality. Logan: And masturbation is a really important and healthy part of our sex lives that we often forget about -- that we get to know about our own bodies better. The more we know what gives us pleasure the more that we can translate that to someone else.

It's really important that you always couch your criticism in positive terms. "I love it when you do this..." And steer them in a right direction this way. Or show them with your hand. You're talking about sex, you're using language for body parts, so that in it of itself is a turn on. As long as you're not using the words "don't" or that "you're doing something wrong." Ian: I think that is so true. Guys, I think we absolutely crave constructive feedback.

It's not just that better breathing means a better sexual rhythm - improved breathing also means better blood flow, which can give you a stronger erection or enhanced sensation in your clitoris. Both of which are rather desirable during sex. Now that I've got your attention I'm going to show you some breathing exercises you can do on your own. Deep abdominal breathing is the key to breathing for better sex. This is how you do it: There are also breathing exercises that you can do with your partner. Although these exercises provide the same benefits as the other exercises, they also can be intimate and intensify the impact of using breath to enhance your sex life. Breathing in tandem....It's okay if you aren't convinced yet - lots of people are skeptical at first. But here's the thing - all of the skeptics are people who haven't tried it. Give it a real effort for a couple of weeks and then we'll see if you are still a skeptic.

Kegels are the best exercise to help you build sexual power, and they can be done by both men and women. The first step is to isolate the right muscle. The next time you are in the bathroom, try stopping and starting the flow of urine. The muscles you are contracting are the ones you need to focus on. For women, strengthening these muscles gives you the abilty to contract more tightly. For men, strengthening these muscles can give you increased stamina, allowing you to maintain your erection for a longer time before you have an orgasm. This gives you a greater ability to satisfy your lover as well as the capability to ejaculate more powerfully which means a more intense orgasm for you. As a side note it also enables you to shoot further, 'if you have any use for that.' To strengthen these muscles, simply tighten and relax them over and over, about 200 times a day. This exercise is known as the basic kegel. Men can actually train with an advanced form of kegel exercise and learn how to do something normally considered a uniquely female skill - have multiple orgasms. When a man can regularly lift up his testicles with a kegel, he can add resistance by draping a towel over the shaft of his erect penis and lifting slowly up and down. Eventually, this exercise may allow a man to orgasm without ejaculation and to reach multiple climaxes.

When you eat spicy food, there is a release of endorphins. Your blood starts flowing more quickly, improving your circulation and intensifying your sexual sensations. Some spices to incorporate into your diet are chili pepper, jalapeo, and ginger. Cultures throughout the ages have used aphrodisiacs to increase their sex drive and sexual excitement. The ancient Romans were said to make use of such exotic aphrodisiacs as hippo snouts and hyena eyeballs, and the Chinese were known to prefer rhino horn, but I'm going to tell you about some aphrodisiacs that you can get a hold of more easily. You've probably heard that oysters are an aphrodisiac, and that's true. While oysters have an effect on both men and women, oysters are notably high in zinc, which is needed for testosterone production, an important part of a man's ability to get and maintain a strong erection. Chocolate is another classic aphrodisiac. When consumed, dark chocolate releases two naturally-occurring mood lifters. These substances induce euphoric feelings that increase sexual excitement. Other genuine aphrodisiacs include figs, bananas, eel, and ginseng.

The first step to reading your partner's mind is to learn what he or she fantasizes about! Luckily, someone else has done the research that can help. In a study of hundreds of people, the fantasies of men and women differed-a lot! So guys, what do women want? Most women fantasize about the emotional aspects of their partner. So let her see your softer side! Women also envision men focusing intently on their bodies-you know how to make THAT come true! And ladies, what do guys crave? Men fantasize about looking at a partner's body. So let go of inhibitions and do it with the lights on!

Most women like constant, repetitive clitoral stimulation. But rubbing the clitoris directly is often too intense! Try moving your fingers over the hood in a circular fashion, or, if you're using oral stimulation, long, slow licks with the flat part of your tongue. Gentle suction can also have excellent results. If you really want to get creative, try tracing the letters of the alphabet with either fingers or tongue. Finding the right area of contact and amount of pressure might take some time, but if you're trying to turn candlelight into fireworks, it's well worth it.

The clitoris is between the top of the inner vaginal lips, or inner labia. The inner labia also serve as a hood to protect the clitoris in much the same manner that foreskin covers the penis. Pull the hood back, and you can see that the clitoris is about the size of a pencil eraser. Rich with responsive nerves, the clitoris becomes erect-just as a penis does-when a woman is aroused.