Kinky Sex

Ian: Maybe you're wondering, 'How do I get my girlfriend or boyfriend to be a little more kinky in bed?' I think it's really natural. You know in the beginning of a relationship you can't keep your hands off each other, you're often falling in love, and your brain chemistry is sort of doing a lot in terms of generating excitement. But after a while you kind of need to keep generating the excitement. So how do you get your partner to kind of go outside their comfort zone a little bit? Logan: Well, novelty is great. Novelty is healthy for a relationship. Even the anticipation of talking about what you may or may not want to try. Open communication: Talking about fantasies, sharing what's on your mind, things you've always wanted to do or even just verbalizing what you've heard other people do. It's exciting. It's all psychological. And that is the best part, you can always switch it up. Ian: I think what's interesting to' I think when people think of doing something kinky or having a kinky fantasy' You know fantasies in their unadulterated form are kind of extreme. But especially in terms of real sex, a little goes a long way. Sometimes talking about your fantasy or figuring out, 'Well, this is like an extreme version of an fantasy, but what's like the shallow end? And how do I dip my toe into the shallow end a little bit?' Logan: There is nothing wrong with wanting to be kinky. This word gets this really bad rap of being kind of dirty and taboo. The fact of the matter is that we all have it in us to have these fantasies that go outside of convention. Not only is that okay, but it's really quite normal. Ian: Its' normal and it keeps things interesting. If you're a little bashful about it you can always tell your partner, 'Hey, I had the sexiest, craziest, kinkiest dream. I don't know what was going on in my unconscious, but let me tell you we were doing some teacher/ student, we were doing whatever'' Logan: ''And maybe we can try it later?' Ian: The point is to start talking about it and take it from there. Logan: And own it. Own the desires. Ian: And if you want to own more of your desires, you can own them by watching more videos in this series.