Threesome Risks

Logan: One of the most popular fantasies that I think we hear people talk about is having a threesome. But sometimes the fantasy is a little better than the reality. The reality of a threesome is a little bit more complicated, don't you think? Ian: I do. I mean I think it's a very potent fantasy. Men fantasize about threesomes' Logan: Women do too. Ian: Yeah, and sometimes it is two women in the threesome fantasies. Sometimes it's two men. And it is funny, this is a fantasy that people, especially men, I think become obsessed with making a reality. I also think it is a good example of how sometimes a fantasy should just be a fantasy. It is almost more fun or intriguing as a fantasy than reality. I've heard from a lot of my patients that have gone through with threesomes, A. one person usually feels a little pressured into doing it. Logan: Or left out. Ian: Or left out. Logan: Or totally left out. Ian: Or did not realize that seeing their partner have sex with somebody else was really going to permanently scar them in some way. Logan: Right, and it's not always the women that feel that way, sometimes it's the men that feel that way. The other challenge is obviously with sexual health too. You have to use condoms, definitely. You need to be using protection. Do you talk about getting tested and what the other person's sexual health is? Also, how do you choose that person? Who chooses? What gender gets to pick first? What gender is that going to be? Ian: Well, and sometimes it is a decision that also is really being made under the influence of alcohol. Logan: Which is never ever a good idea. Ian: No, I mean not only is it not good to make decisions when you're drunk or under the influence of alcohol, it could really lead to a choice of partner that might' you know if you're drinking a lot, you're possibly in a circle where there's a higher risk of unsafe sex to begin with. Logan: And again some people can get away with having threesomes and have these amazing experiences, but it is just something that needs to be more thought out than just 'we're going to try it, let's just go for it.' Ian: And guys, if you are going to have a threesome and you're involving your girlfriend or wife in it, remember she's the one that you're going to see tomorrow and tomorrow and the next day. And make sure you treat her like a queen. Logan: Very nice. For more sex tips like these, check out other videos in this series.